What is a blended orgasm and how do I have one?
One of the most sought-after orgasms is the blended orgasm (a.k.a. the combo orgasm), which is when you climax from more than one erogenous zone being stimulated. Any spot on your body that induces arousal can be paired to create a blended orgasm.
As Carol Queen, PhD, a staff expert at Good Vibrations, explains, orgasms happen in the brain and when a non-blended or “ordinary” orgasm occurs, the nerve signals are coming from whatever erotic zones are receiving pleasurable sensations. “In the case of a blended orgasm, the nerve signals are coming from more than one of these bodily zones,” says Queen. That can mean the clitoris plus the vagina or the penis plus the nipples.
Although we tend to think of blended orgasms as something that can only happen during simultaneous clitoral and G-spot stimulation, there are far more combos to choose from. “Perhaps, you orgasm while having both your clitoris and nipples stimulated,” says Laurie Mintz, Lelo staff expert, licensed psychologist, and certified sex therapist. “If you orgasm during penetrative sex while stimulating the clitoris with your hands or a sex toy, that’s a blended orgasm.”
Can everyone have a blended orgasm?
If you’re able to experience a regular orgasm, then there’s a very good chance that you can also have a blended orgasm. According to Queen, they’re quite common, and with so many erogenous zones to work with, you have a good shot at nailing one. Unless someone has nerve damage, it’s very likely that they can experience a blended orgasm, says Queen. “This can also include people who have not orgasmed in other ways; sometimes the additional stimulation allows a person to get all the way there.” Of course, like anything sex-related, it takes practice, understanding how your body responds to pleasure, and recognizing the ways in which you become aroused.
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How to have a blended orgasm
If you’re thinking, “Oh, heck yes, I want in on this,” then I have some good news for you: We’re going to teach you how. But that doesn’t mean everyone needs a blended orgasm to have enjoyable partnered sex or an incredible masturbation session. “Not everything works for everybody, and whatever works for you is just fine,” says Mintz. After all, the clitoral orgasm is the easiest orgasm to attain if you have a vulva, with 36.6% of people needing their clitoris stimulated in order to orgasm.
If you’re a beginner, start with the most common take on it first: G-spot stimulation and clit stimulation at once. Before you do anything, you want to gather your necessary tools: lube, vibrator, and a G-spot sex toy, which can either be a nonvibrating dildo or vibrating dildo. (Fun fact: rabbit vibrators are great for this.)
While stimulating the inside of your vaginal wall with either a toy or your fingers, you also want to include external stimulation by giving your clitoris some major attention too—those 10,000 nerve endings are the key to sexual pleasure. You want to keep stimulating these two areas until you have a vaginal orgasm, clitoral orgasm, or a simultaneous orgasm—that latter essentially being blended.
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If you find that you can’t get “there,” then don’t be afraid to switch up the erogenous zones you’re stimulating. For example, try wearing a butt plug while stimulating your anterior fornix or A-spot, which is deeper than the G-spot and is located between the cervix and vaginal wall. If you want to try to achieve a blended O with a partner, then get into the doggy-style sex position for penetrative sex. While your partner provides internal stimulation with their penis or strap-on, you can stimulate another part of your body. If you prefer to be hands-free so you can enjoy the ride, ask your partner to do all the stimulating while penetrating you.
Because there are different kinds of orgasms, you may find yourself having an O you didn’t plan for or you might even experience female ejaculation, also called squirting. It’s important to enjoy yourself and not get caught up with what you think you should or shouldn’t be able to do. As Mintz points out, all bodies are different and rely on different kinds of stimulation to orgasm.
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The best sex toys to stimulate a blended orgasm
Although you can certainly enjoy a blended orgasm manually, let’s be honest, sex toys make everything so much more fun. “Any toy can add to blended orgasm play if you have something else going on,” says Queen. “If each hand is holding a toy, or one partner has a toy in addition to whatever partner sex is happening, those are generally opportunities for blended orgasm.” Here are our top sex toys for the job.
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Because a blended orgasm doesn’t have to be simultaneous vaginal and clitoral orgasms, I’d be remiss to not mention anal stimulation. “Blended orgasms can be enjoyed by adding anal play to other types of touch, including receptive oral, external vibrator play, nipple stimulation, or kissing,” says Gabrielle Kassel, queer sex educator and sex toy influencer.
As Kassel explains, thanks to the vibrations from this plug, you can experience both direct stimulation (the prostate) and indirect stimulation (the G-zone). “For people assigned male at birth, this butt plug can be enjoyed with penile stimulation for a blended prostate-penile orgasm,” says Kassel. “Meanwhile, for people assigned female at birth, when combined with vaginal stimulation, it can facilitate an anal-vaginal orgasm.” However, before you dive into purchasing a Snug Plug, you want to literally size up the different sizes. The largest (size 5) is something you want to work your way up to, especially if you’ve never experimented with anal play.
If your aim is a blended orgasm that’s the result of stimulating your clit and G-spot at the same time, then I only have one word for you: rabbit. These types of vibrators are designed to stimulate the external clitoris and internal clitoral legs (also known as the G-zone) at the same time, says Kassel. “Most rabbit vibrators are referred to as such because the clitoral arm has two nubbins that look vaguely like rabbit ears.” But if you’re not a fan of the ears that can be found on some rabbit vibrators, that’s where Nova 2 comes into play. Instead of ears, it has a smooth silicone shaft, much like the one that stimulates inside. Both the internal and external vibrators are deep and rumbly, creating a full-body experience.
As much as achieving a blended orgasm through simultaneous vaginal and clitoral stimulation might be on your to-do list, if you’re not a fan of direct clitoral stimulation, then you have options. “Air suction toys—sometimes known as clit suction toys—is the broad name for pleasure products that use unique air technology to stimulate the clitoris, rather than vibration,” says Kassel. They also do a fabulous job of mimicking oral sex, if that’s your thing.
As Kassel points out, these toys are so intense that they’re often credited as giving vulva-owners their first official orgasm or, for those who’ve been around the orgasm block, their most powerful orgasm. “These toys can be added into penetrative vaginal sex (with a penis or dildo) to add clitoral stimulation to the vaginal stimulation provided by the phallus,” says Kassel. “[This toy] provides unique sonic waves of pleasure to the clitoris while providing G-spot stimulation, with a powerful and fully flexible stimulator,” says Mintz.
If you’re into the idea of using more than one sex toy so you can enjoy multiple sensations in multiple spots while trying to achieve your blended O, the editor-approved Lelo Gigi 2 can stimulate the G-spot paired with an external massager, like a bullet vibrator (We-Vibe Tango X would literally hit the spot), for the perfect combo. As you stimulate your G-spot, you can use the bullet vibrator in all your favourite erogenous zones. For example, simultaneous G-spot and nipple stimulation is hot, as is focusing on your earlobes and clitoris at the same time. Although Gigi 2 is perfectly designed to hit your G-spot, it doesn’t mean that it can’t be used externally, too, as a clitoral vibrator.
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“Vibrating cock rings are placed at the base of the penis and can help keep blood in the penis, while also providing vibration to both the person wearing the ring as well as a vulva-owner who is riding the penis during vaginal intercourse,” says Kassel. The We-Vibe Pivot has a vibrator at the top to stimulate the clitoris of a partner. “Rider on top is typically the best position for using cock rings to facilitate a blended orgasm, as they allow the rider to find the body-torso-pubic angle that creates the most pleasurable clitoral contact with the vibrating top,” says Kassel.
No matter how you choose to explore blended orgasms and all the ways you can have one, it’s important to get creative and have fun with it. You also want to take expectations out of the equation and focus on enjoying the journey, as opposed to the end goal. That way, when the blended orgasm shakes you to your core you can say, “Wow! I wasn’t expecting that!”
