12 sexfluencers to follow on Instagram and TikTok for all the open, sex-positive, myth-busting sexuality content
There are many blessings to social media. It's where we get our fashion and beauty inspo, it also enables us to 'meet' people we never would otherwise – people that can educate us and create engaged and inspiring communities.
This is exactly what it’s done for sex. What was once a taboo is now an open and encouraged topic, all thanks to a vanguard of sex-positive advocates and professionals. They’re there to help you explore your sexuality, to teach you everything you want to know about sex – but would rather not ask IRL, and to make your feeds less heteronormative and more inclusive. Here are the ones leading the charge...
@evyan.whitney / Instagram1. Ev'Yan Whitney
Instagram @evyan.whitney
Struggling to find your sexuality? Ev’Yan Whitney is here for you. She’s a sexuality doula who helps women liberate themselves from sexual shame, by sharing radical tools for self-love and sensuality. Her podcast Sensual Self and her book of the same name are both useful extensions to her Insta feed.
@froeticsexology / Instagram2. Portia Brown
Instagram @froeticsexology
Portia Brown is the brains behind Froetic Sexology; a site dedicated to supportive sex education centred around black women and femmes. Here, and on her social feeds, Portia prides herself on addressing the issues often forgotten about in conventional sex education: consent, survivor-led sexuality, intersex and non-binary sex and the intersectionality of race and sex.
@junodawson / Instagram3. Juno Dawson
Instagram @junodawson
In 2015, Juno Dawson made the decision to undergo a transition from James to Juno, to live her life as a woman. Now, she’s a transgender activist, and besides speaking up about it on her Instagram, she’s also written several fiction and non-fiction books to help others understand, including This Book Is Gay and The Gender Games.
@rubyrare / Instagram4. Ruby Rare
Instagram @rubyrare
TikTok @_rubyrareRuby Rare is a sex educator with a goal to get people talking more confidently and inclusively about sex. From masturbation to sex positions, she does exactly that on her Instagram feed, from her perspective as a queer, non-monogamous, dual-heritage woman.
@karleyslutever / Instagram5. Karley Sciortino
Instagram @karleyslutever
Karley Sciortino writes Vogue’s column on sex and dating advice, Breathless, while she also runs her own website Slutever, and is the host of a show and author of a book by the same name. Her aim is to reclaim the word ‘slut’ and empower us to embrace pleasure without shame. Pro-sex feminism is her USP, as she opens discourse around everything from BDSM to sex parties.
@missfenderr / Instagram6. Alayna Joy
Instagram @missfenderr
TikTok @missfenderrAlayna Joy brings a frank and funny perspective to the LGBT+ community with educational comedy YouTube videos on everything from her experience sleeping with women for the first time, to how she came out as a gay woman.
@hannahwitton / Instagram7. Hannah Witton
Instagram @hannahwitton
TikTok @hannahwitton
Hannah Witton is the Queen of candid sex conversations. Having lived with a stoma for most of her life, she’s an advocate for those living with chronic illness and invisible disabilities like herself, and on both her Instagram and YouTube, she covers everything from sex toys to sex ed and her own personal experiences.
@yourdiagnonsense / Instagram8. Todd Baratz
Instagram @yourdiagnonsense
TikTok @yourdiagnonsenseAs a certified sex therapist, an individual and couples’ psychotherapist, podcast host, and writer specialising in relationships and sex, Todd Baratz works wonders for people and couples striving for better sex. Whether you’re straight or gay, Baratz has your back, as he also shares his own experiences as a gay man.
@shanboody / Instagram9. Shan Boodram
Instagram @shanboody
TikTok @realshanboodyShan Boodram is a vocal advocate for sex-positive conversations that provide truthful and empowering information for her audience. Between both her Instagram and YouTube, she has all the answers to everything from casual sex to insecurities that hold you back in bed.
@theyasminbenoit / Instagram10. Yasmin Benoit
Instagram @theyasminbenoit
TikTok @theyasminbenoitModel and queer activist Yasmin Benoit is blazing a trail for asexuality and aromanticism (those who experience little to no sexual attraction, and no sexual or romantic desire towards others). Her aim is to bring a sense of belonging to those who feel alone in their asexuality, by sharing her own experiences.
@calummcswiggan / Instagram11. Calum McSwiggan
Instagram @calummcswiggan
Eat Gay Love author Calum McSwiggan is most prolific on YouTube, where he creates accessible and relatable content on queer culture, issues that affect the LGBT+ community, and mental health – think anal sex, sex toys for men and open relationships. He speaks about all of these on his Instagram, too, where he also shares more on his personal love life.
@riyadhk / Instagram12. Riyadh Khalaf
Instagram @riyadhk
TikTok @riyadhkhalafRiyadh Khalaf champions the LGBT community, as author of The Gay Guide and former host of BBC documentary seriesQueer Britain. The latter was created to help the public understand what it means to be queer in the UK today, and that’s exactly what Khalaf does on his own Instagram and YouTube accounts. His coming out video in particular has received 6million views, and undoubtedly helped other men in the same situation.
