I'm saving a *lot* of money by living with my girlfriend, but it's putting pressure on our relationship – what should I do?

Money Matters A Receptionist Who Is Reliant On Her Partner For Rent
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Welcome to Money Matters: GLAMOUR’s weekly dive into the world of finance. We’re chatting all things personal finance, from contracting rights in the workplace to expert mortgage advice and saving for your first home, to ISAs and dealing with debt, to help empower you to make better choices. Now more than ever, it's important to understand our money, but so many of us feel as if we don't have a handle on it – or worse, feel anxious and scared about money.

So each week, a woman in a unique situation will give us an honest breakdown of her finances, and our expert will give her easy tips on how to tackle it.

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Rose is a 24-year-old receptionist for a luxury hair salon in Stockport, earning 28k per annum. She lives with her girlfriend in a flat that her girlfriend's dad rents to her for £400 per month (he bought the freehold for 40k in the '90s).
This means Rose only pays £200 in rent per month, which suits her, but it puts pressure on their relationship.
She doesn't have a savings account – her family never set her up with one, and she keeps delaying setting one up herself due to embarrassment and a lack of funds.
Here she shares her money diary:

MY ACCOUNTS

Current account: £3,855
Savings account: £0

MY INCOMINGS

Annual salary pre-tax: £28,000
Annual salary post-tax: £22,513
Monthly wage pre-tax: £2,333
Monthly wage post-tax: £1,876
Other incoming payments: £0

MY OUTGOINGS

Rent/mortgage: £200
Bills: £150
Splurges: £100
Other: £0
Any student loan/credit cards/overdrafts etc: £0

MY MONEY THOUGHTS

My worst money habit: Thinking about money instead of acting on my anxieties.
My biggest money worry: Always being dependent on others.
My financial hopes for the future: Financial independence.

Current money mood: 💫 💇🙂

WHAT MONEY EXPERT MAKALA GREEN SAYS:

Makala Green is a multi-award-winning Chartered Financial Adviser at Schroders Personal Wealth and has over 18 years of experience in the financial industry. She understands managing money can be complicated and confusing, which is why she is passionate about making financial planning more accessible for all. She is also the Author of The Money Edit; a no shame no blame guide to taking control of your money.

Axe your money anxiety

Everyone experiences money anxiety at some point – so you are not alone! Recent research from the Schroders Personal Wealth Money and Mind report states that 52% of UK adults feel regularly or occasionally stressed or overwhelmed due to their financial situation.

It may be paying a bill, coping with the cost of living, or simply getting to grips with saving or investing. While it's normal to feel some degree of financial anxiety, if you spend a lot of your time worrying about your finances or consistently reminding yourself of past money mistakes, it's worth spending some time to free your fears. The good news is that you can overcome money anxiety with small changes to your financial habits to help build more structure, security, and a positive money mindset.

Start by identifying the key sources of your financial stress. A simple way to do this is to note the common causes of your anxiety and question your anxious thoughts. Next, set small goals and celebrate small wins, which could be as simple as opening a savings account to help overcome money anxiety.

Build a budget (that works for you!)

If you want to make your personal finances more predictable and provide peace of mind, it's time to prepare a budget that will help you keep control of your spending, encourage you to save and relieve financial fears. A budget is also a useful tool to work out where you'll be financially in the future and build financial independence, provided you can stick to your plan.

If you have a regular amount left over each month, you want to put that money to work; for you and your future. Take advantage of maximising your savings while your expenses are low. To make your life easier, you can set up a standing order from your current account each month to a savings account. Consider contributing to an ISA and a Pension to build up your money tax-efficiently. A common budgeting rule is 50/20/30 (essentials/savings/non-essentials). However, if these splits don't suit your lifestyle, you can change them.

Plan for the unexpected.

A safe way to reduce money stress is to prepare an emergency fund: a cash reserve that you can rely on in emergencies or unplanned events. You should set aside at least 3-6 months' expenditure to cover yourself during difficult times if needed; this will support you and reduce stress and anxiety levels. Start with an easy-access savings account separate from other savings that you can contribute regularly; many banks will reward you with competitive savings rates if you save monthly. The key is to keep saving until you reach your goal and forget about it!

Learn more about money.

Financial education is often preached as the way to end financial anxiety; the more you know and understand, the less worried you may feel. Unfortunately, financial education is not a subject taught in schools, so don't be hard on yourself if you're not financially savvy: the truth is you don't have to be to make money work for you, but it wouldn't hurt to get familiar with the basics. I suggest educating yourself in bite-sized chunks. For example, you can learn a bit about budgeting online for one month or listen to a podcast on saving or read a book on investing the next month.

I'm also a fan of regularly setting time aside to engage with money—I call it the money meet-up! Ideally, schedule around 45 minutes each month to dedicate to whatever is on your financial to-do list. It may be clearing bills, appealing a parking ticket, or updating your budget. The more you know about your personal finances, the savvier you will become and the less likely you will worry because you will be more in tune with your money.

Speak to a professional financial planner.

You don't need to be rich before taking your finances seriously. If you feel completely overwhelmed by your finances or need help to control your money, consider meeting with a financial planner. A financial planner can prepare a plan for your future and help you create financial independence, whether overcoming your anxiety, setting financial goals, or understanding how to invest for your future. Many financial planners create detailed plans that cover everything from saving to investments, taxes, and personal financial planning for retirement. You can get a recommendation from a family or friend or your bank or search online for a qualified financial adviser local to you.