TikTok's ‘women in male fields’ trend is highlighting the universal experiences of women that date men… and it's, er, more than a little eye-opening.
ICYMI, the trend has seen multiple women (nine million and counting, actually) collectively sharing the toxic relationship behaviours that they have often been on the receiving end of from men – and satirically flipping them on their heads as if they had behaved in the same way. All to the soundtrack of Nicki Minaj's Anaconda, no less.
“He sent me a paragraph explaining how he felt and I replied with ‘idk what you want me to say rn’,” reads one. Another: “When I started punching the ground and balling my eyes out because I cheated.”
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Another big hitter – with a huge 3.2million views – reads: “He was crying in bed so I said ‘here we go again’ and turned around and fell asleep.” Also resounding (far too heavily) is: “When he tells me exactly what I've done wrong, so I say ‘I’m sorry you feel that way'.”
Unsurprisingly, the comments sections are just as relatable – as countless women react to what is clearly a universal experience. “ARE WE ALL DATING THE SAME MEN?” one asks, as another writes: “This trend makes me realise I’ve never had a unique experience.”
Pushing great people away is a subconscious attempt to stay emotionally safe.
So, the ‘women in male fields’ trend is making women feel seen (by other women, at least). As one TikToker put it: “[The] women in male fields trend is teaching women that it’s not our fault. It's the subtle guide to red flags.”
For others, it's a way of at least being able to poke fun at such experiences. As GLAMOUR contributor Chloe Laws wrote: “Hopping on this trend because sometimes it’s necessary to laugh at the misogyny I experience online on a daily basis.”
Perhaps unsurprisingly, there has since been a ‘men in female fields’ spin-off trend on TikTok, in which men share experiences from their own relationships with women. Some are tongue-in-cheek, some not so much. Touched a nerve, perhaps? Either way, you can expect your FYP to be filled with far-too-relatable relationship stories for the foreseeable… and Anaconda on repeat.
As someone who has been in a relationship with a man for over 15 years, I highly recommend therapy.
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