Master Dominic is London’s leading male dominant. Basically, he spends his days kicking boys in the balls. So, how did he also become an electrifying sex teacher to straight women? Because this man knows men. As he says, “I have the equipment, I work on it, and I’m gay, so I’m not a threat” (and, no, he won’t make you try it out on him). Sex questions at the ready, here’s his advice – and it’s more down-to-earth than you’d ever imagine…
Depends on the guy: some like a gentle touch, others prefer a tug. To test, plop his balls in your hand, and wiggle. Yes, it’s that simple. Aim the wiggle backwards (towards his bum) for the feel-good nerve endings, and remember, they’re more sensitive at the base of his penis, so wiggle with care.
Make a series of strokes away from the balls, and off the end of the penis. It’s not something to stick at for ten minutes, but it’s very useful for building tingles, so when you start going up and down the penis, your work’s cut in half.
Have you ever said, bluntly: “I really, really want to talk about sex”? My partner did to me once. He spoke, I listened – and getting straight to the point has made sex chat easier ever since. As for specifics, say you want to try new things. Use positive reinforcement when he’s doing something well, and pleasing you. And read the room. An intense quickie is not the best time to announce, “So I’ve got this checklist.” But if it’s a relaxed Wednesday session, and his blood’s already up, why not?
Let him know that you’re there, and into what he’s doing. A lot of us don’t have experience in being touched in other areas at the same time, so get him to open his legs so you have access to touch his bum and balls. This stops missionary being about pumping an orifice, and becomes more intimate.
This one: “If my partner asks me to play with his bum, does it make him gay?” I have to take a deep breath and say, “No, madam, not if he’s in bed with you.” If he wanted a man to touch his butt, he would find a way – there’s Grindr and saunas for that. Pretty much every man has wandering daydreams about this and that, but if he wants you to roger him senseless, that has nothing to do with his sexuality.
Let your partner talk about what they want, without judgement. If a threesome comes up, that doesn’t mean they actually want one, but when there’s openness instead of taboo, you’d be amazed at how great sex can be. I don’t like saying, “Look at me, Mr Bobby Big Balls who knows everything,” but the biggest lesson I’ve taken from my job is sometimes we just want to be told our desires are totally normal – and that’s kind of hot.
For more info about Dominic’s Playing The Flute and For His Pleasure salons, visit coco-de-mer.com/salons; masterdominic.co.uk
