Picture the scene: it's your wedding day. You've been planning it for the best part of a year (and, OK, secretly since you were 12), spent thousands on hosting your friends and family, and then, out of nowhere, comes a romantic moment you'd never anticipated. Except, it isn't yours: it's your friend, seizing the moment to propose to their significant other.
Would you freak out – or would you think little of it, other than to wish them well? It's a question of hot debate at the moment on social media. It started with a tweet from user @pretty_cellaa, who questioned ‘Why does it bother people so much for another person to get engaged at your wedding?’
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The tweet, which has received 2.5 million views at time of writing, has certainly spurned some opinionated responses. Most, it seems, think it's “rude” or “attention-seeking” to carry out such an action, although the counter-arguments make for interesting reading too.
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So let's take a look at why some might be pro – or neutral to – another couple getting engaged at their wedding. Some users said the notion was, essentially, no big deal to them: “To each their own”, “I don't care”. There was also a suggestion that weddings are a day to celebrate love… so another proposal might just be on theme, or even “beautiful” as one person put it.
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Others seemed to think it could potentially be acceptable under the condition that the would-be proposer sought the marrying couple's permission to go ahead.
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However, the bulk of opinion seemed to fall in one direction: that proposing at someone else's wedding is a serious no-no, predominantly because it piggy-backs off of the expensive celebration the marrying couple has organised, and because it might divert attention from the couple on their special day. Others added that they'd say “no”, should their partner carry this sort of thing out.
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A similar debate has unfolded on Reddit more recently, with one user posting on the popular “Am I The Asshole” thread asking, “AITA for refusing to let me and my fiancé’s best friend propose at my wedding?” The post details a story of an engaged woman whose friend, John – who is dating her friend and future bridesmaid Holly (their names have been changed for anonymity) – asked her permission to propose at her upcoming nuptials, and for her to help facilitate the proposal by handing Holly her bouquet to kick off the proposal. After the bride refused, it apparently led to her and her fiancé falling out with John (who is also supposed to be the best man at the wedding).
‘You carried a baby for 9 months, gave birth, and will be responsible for that child for the rest of your life,’ Dr Charlotte Proudman wrote.
From the looks of the above, it's best to err on the side of caution – and let a couple enjoy their married day without a giant proposal-sized distraction.
