The DOs And DON'Ts Of Sex!
When it comes to sex, we think there are some definite DOs and some rather clear DON'Ts. Did we get it right - or are we off the mark? Let us know!
iStockDO talk in bed. And we don’t just mean dirty (although that can be fun, too) - tell your fella what you want him to do to you (and what you’d like to do to him). It doesn’t just sounds sexy - him knowing what turns you on (and vice versa) will mean more orgasms for both of you.
Rex FeaturesDON’T worry about what your body looks like when you’re between the sheets. Whether you have a bit of cellulite on the backs of your thighs (who doesn’t?) is the last thing that your man is thinking about when you’re having sex.
Rex FeaturesDO learn to please yourself – once you know the best ways to make yourself orgasm, it will be much easier to show him how. Have a favourite vibrator? Bring it out of the bedside drawer next time – you may be surprised how much he enjoys it, too.
Rex FeaturesDON’T rush it if you have the whole night – instead, go slow for guaranteed fireworks at the finish. Start by sharing a long, sexy shower, and then give each other full-body massages in the bedroom followed by extended foreplay. By the time you actually start having sex, you’ll both be ready to explode!
PA PhotosDO push the boundaries if you feel like your sex life is getting a little bit routine. New positions, roleplay, having sex on the kitchen table – there are lots of easy ways to spice things up, so go for it!
DON’T feel you have to perform oral sex if you don’t enjoy it. But if you do? Practice controlling your gag reflex, use your hands as well as your mouth, and remember that it’s all about your lips and mouth – not your teeth. Want to spice it up even more? Pop an ice cube in your mouth before you get busy.
Rex FeaturesDON’T be afraid to play with his balls. Yes, we know, they’re not the most attractive part of his body, but men love it when you touch them. Start with some gentle stroking and see how he reacts – some men like you to be quite rough, but others prefer a lighter touch.
Rex FeaturesDO remember that sex isn’t a competition. Yes, there are definitely people out there who are having better sex than you, but why are you worried about that? There isn’t a sexual Olympics. If you and your man are both satisfied with your sex life – whether that means having sex once a month or twice a day, missionary position or swinging from the ceiling – what anyone else is doing simply doesn’t matter.
DO remember that sex isn’t a competition. Yes, there are definitely people out there who are having better sex than you, but why are you worried about that? There isn’t a sexual Olympics. If you and your man are both satisfied with your sex life – whether that means having sex once a month or twice a day, missionary position or swinging from the ceiling – what anyone else is doing simply doesn’t matter.
DO experiment with role playing. If you’re a little shy, get you and your man to write down your ideas on slips of paper, pull them out of a hat – and get to it.
DON’T be afraid to give him a striptease – but think Dita Von Teese, rather than Christina Aguilera in the Dirrrty years. Get your fella to take you shopping for lingerie in preparation – although he may have a hard time waiting for the big reveal once he knows what’s coming!
DO banish the television from your bedroom – along with laptops, iPhones, even (if you really want to be strict) books. Getting rid of the other forms of entertainment will mean that you’ll associate the bedroom with sex – and have more of it as a result.
Rex FeaturesDON’T feel compelled to go totally bare downstairs if you don’t want to – sure, everyone likes some grooming, but men do understand that you have hair and you shouldn’t feel compelled to get Brazilianed if you don’t like it. Boyfriend pressuring you to take it all off? Tell him that’s fine – as long as he’s happy to do it as well.
Rex FeaturesDO have sober sex. There’s nothing wrong with having a glass of wine (or several) to get you in the mood, but there’s something to be said for making love without the aid of alcohol, and with all your senses fully tuned in.
Rex FeaturesDON’T feel you have to fake it. If a guy’s not doing the right things to get you off, then pretending it’s working is not going to help – it’s just going to make him carry on doing it wrong! Don’t be afraid to speak up gently, guide his hand, or even do a demonstration of what you like – guys find that really hot.
Rex FeaturesDO have a little al fresco fun – take advantage of the good weather and take your guy out to have a (literal) roll in the hay...or a meadow...or a forest...or a deserted beach. You get the idea.
Rex FeaturesDON’T be afraid to laugh! Sometimes sex is just plain funny, and if something goes a little awkwardly or wrong, nothing is better at getting you back on track (and banishing embarrassment) than laughing about it together.
