Taylor Swift and Sophie Turner are the moment. The pair have been seen dining together twice in New York this week (honestly, these pics have been my Roman Empire) amid the ongoing drama that is Sophie’s divorce to Joe Jonas. Yet, are we really surprised that they have been dining together? After all, Taylor has always been a girl’s girl.
A girl’s girl, according to one TikTok user, is someone who “respects other girls and understands girl code”. User @emilylulamay, also explained several tips to being a ‘girl’s girl’ in her video, which has been viewed over 870,000 times.
“Don’t lie to your girlfriends,” she says. “For example, if one of your friends say ‘oh, should I get this haircut’ and you know it will look bad on them, don’t say yes. Don’t lie to them.”
Other ‘rules’ she shared include telling your friend if they have spinach in their teeth or if they have smudged makeup, not gatekeeping where they got certain clothes or products, supporting your friends rather than being jealous of them, not gossiping, and putting other girls first.
The pair wed in 2019 and have two children together.
At its essence, a girl’s girl is a woman who supports other women and uplifts her girlfriends. The kind of girl who will dress up with you to go to a Beyonce concert, or who will arduously take pictures of you for Insta until you get the perfect shot.
One Reddit user described a girl’s girl as the opposite of a ‘pick me’ girl. “You don't put down other women in an effort to get male validation or to make yourself appear ‘not like other girls’,” user @BonnyDraws wrote. “A girl's girl’s goal is to be supportive to other women, and defend women against any targeted harassment. They don't see girls as competition but as comrades.”
The evidence that Taylor is a girl’s girl has been stark since the beginning. In her debut album Fearless, she wrote about becoming besties with Abigail Anderson, crying alongside her during a breakup, and who she is still friends with now nearly two decades later. She also all but coined the term ‘girl squad’ during her 1989 era, regularly spotted with pals like Selena Gomez, Blake Lively, and Gigi Hadid.
Her outings with Sophie Turner have further cemented her status as a girl’s girl. Taylor and Sophie developed a friendship after appearing on The Graham Norton Show together back in 2019. Later, when Taylor dropped her surprise 2020 album Folklore, she insinuated on ‘Invisible String’ that she had sent Sophie and Joe’s daughter a present with the lyrics: “Cold was the steel of my axe to grind / For the boys who broke my heart / Now I send their babies presents.”
Taylor, of course, is also an ex of Joe Jonas. They dated when Taylor was a teenager back in 2008, with Taylor later claiming on The Ellen DeGeneres Show that the boyband star had broken up with her during a 27-second phone call. By going to dinner with Sophie this week, Taylor has made a statement that she will always put her girlfriend’s needs first. It is a symbol of solidarity between the pair, and let’s Sophie know that she has someone powerful in the industry that she can fall back on and lean on for support.
Every woman needs a girl’s girl like Taylor in their life, and you can easily become a girl’s girl yourself too. TikTok user @chloeecara recently posted a video stating that she had never had a friend who was a girl’s girl growing up so she vouched to become the girl’s girl that her friends could depend on.
“That means attending events my friends are throwing, sharing resources, and exchanging knowledge to better one another. Paying money to buy the products they’ve worked on or just sending words of encouragement their way to cheer them on,” she explained. “I can definitely say that my most emotionally intimate relationships are with my female friends.”
There really is nothing like female friends, and female friends who are also girl’s girls are an extra special breed. May we all have them and all strive to be one.
